HOW TO MANAGE STRESS- BEST GUIDE

Stress

 Stress is any situation that makes you feel emotionally
uncomfortable and psychologically disturbed.
 Most stress occur as a result of how we relate to our
fellow human beings.

Stress may come from:
 Financial / marital issues
 Ill-heath, joblessness etc.

Effects of stress
 Hypertension
 Stomach ulcer
 Obesity
 Alcoholism
 Infertility
 Marital discord

Zones of stress

Stress occurs most often at two places:
 Your home
 Your workplace

Causes of stress

We relate to our fellow human beings through
communication:
 Verbal–what we say (words)
 Non-verbal–how we behave.
 Communication friction/ineffective communication is the cause of most stresses
 You can avoid stress by learning how to communicate and behave better both at home and at the workplace.

Watch your words.
They can eat you up
 Words are powerful
 Use them wisely
 What you say is important;
 How you say it, is even more important.
 In the courtroom, you are judged by what you say.
 Your words can put you in trouble, and
 Your words can also get you out of trouble.

At Home

 Your spouse is the most significant source of stress in your house.
 Endeavour to build a good communicative relationship
with your spouse.
 Discuss important issues with him/her including your
vision for the family (where do you want the family to
be in the next 5-10 years?).

Managing stress at home

 Resolve not to say anything in anger, especially in
response to your spouse.
 It may cost you sleepless nights.
 Support your spouse materially and emotionally, and
 Never take them for granted.
 Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt
If you are close enough to your spouse,
 The children will naturally find their level.

Pull your spouse up

 To maintain a meaningful communicative state with your
spouse, pull him or her along the social ladder as you climb
up.
 It is not everybody who can pursue academics, so find out
what your spouse like doing and support him or her to be
among the best in that field or vocation.
 It boosts confidence and makes communication between
the two of you easier.
 Compromise when it is necessary to bring peace and
harmony in the house.
 You need that peace of mind to concentrate on your
activities at the workplace; make it a priority.

At the Office

 Your boss may be the most significant source of stress
at the workplace.
 Learn to do your job well enough to be respected.
 Engage your colleagues in meaningful communication:
1. Focus on the reason for the discussion.
2. Communicate emotions in person.
3. Listen more than you talk.
4. Simplify your messages.

Have a vision

 If you know where you want to go with your career, you
will be less stressful at the workplace.
 Have a vision for your career
 Find out what you need to do to realise your dreams at
the workplace.
 When you are focused on a vision of being at the top
management level in the next 5-10 years, you will not
be distracted by small issues like office chairs.

Define your friends

Your colleagues at the workplace are not your friends:
 they are your business partners, at best
 your competitors, at worst.
 Focus on your job at the office
 Don’t bring your personal issues into the workplace.

Avoid gossip (s)

 Don’t get involved in any unholy discussion about any
individual at the workplace; either your boss or your
subordinates.
 It may come back to bite you.

Be loyal

 Don’t do anything to undermine the success of the
company.
 Give your full support to the boss.
 He may not know as much about the business as you
do.
 That is the reason why he/she is your boss.
 Respect the position the person occupies and it would
be easier to respect the occupant of that position

 Work to make your boss more popular at the
workplace.
 Refuse to do anything to undermine him/her.
 That means you should not challenge your boss in
public/meeting place.
 Seek a private audience with your boss, if you have a
different opinion about an issue he/she is passionate
about

Be professional

 Don’t compromise on your professional values even if
that will cost you a position or your job.
 The company may put out damaging information
about you, but the truth will eventually come out that
you stood for what is right and got fried or fired
 You will get bigger and better job offers

Leave work issues at office

 Resolve not to take office / work issues home.
 Don’t complain about your colleagues or your boss to
your wife.
 Women are more emotionally courageous than men.
 They may come fighting for you and cause you more
stress at the office.